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[traceyl]

I'm with C-dub... it's not our place to judge... I just find myself thrilled that there was a happy ending in this case.

EDHJen - Thank you for all you did to help this family. I commend you for getting involved and getting the word out.

Tracey

[FolsomBarb]

IMHO, the non-urgency of the police is a telling sign that they possibly knew more and weren't as quick to react to this as a worst case scenario and in the end they were right.

IMHO, the fact (and yes, it is a fact), that the FBI got involved and is STILL involved and asking for additional information via their phone number, is a telling sign.

There are many things that the family is unable to share at this time due to an ongoing investigation. Stop jumping to conclusions that just because she's found and is now home safe that she ran away of her own accord.

[Lauren]

This thread is becoming much more than a sincere friend trying to help out a daughter that went missing!!!
No apology is necessary... like some had mentioned!!!
EDHJEN you had her best interest in your heart and mind and they are very lucky to have you as a friend!! Somone who would do everything in their power to help find their child! I hope everyone has a friend like you in their lives!! You're a great person... and I'm thankful we are reading that she is home safe instead of the alternative!!!!

[Orangetj]

I am so glad to hear that this ordeal is over and that she is safely back home! It was so great to see this community of people coming together to do what they could to help and It's disappointing that some people are already calling the actions of the parents into question. Those people were living a terrible nightmare for 8 days, one which I think those of us who haven't experience it can't possibly comprehend.

The fact that she was found and is home FAR outweighs everything else. Too often these situations have the opposite ending and it's certainly understandable that the family would only be imagining the worst.

[Dave Burrell]

IMHO, the non-urgency of the police is a telling sign that they possibly knew more and weren't as quick to react to this as a worst case scenario and in the end they were right.

I agree you may be right about the police, but that has no bearing on how a parent would react when their child goes missing.

As a parent myself, I too would have done everything that these parents did... its human nature to freak out when a loved one is lost

[ChipShot]

There is a possibility that Kacie may have been taken to the Oakland/Bay area.

I just heard on the radio she was found in the Bay Area. This makes it appear that alot more was known than was shared with the public, which calls into question the panicked, inflammatory statements about sexual exploitation, etc. This was handled poorly on several different levels. Glad she's safe now.

[Prairie Oaks Agitator]

Thanks be that she is home and safe.

EDHJen and the other forum members who helped, you'll get bonus points in heaven.

The only apologies needed are from those who have been criticizing the parents; pray you are never in the position of having a missing child, no matter what circumstances. And perhaps another from EDSheriffs for their lack of prompt action...

[Deb aka Resume Lady]

I don't fault the parents for anything they said. They either a) knew more than they were at liberty to say, b) shared their deepest fears to bring the public to action -- out of desperation because the police weren't doing anything for a low-functioning, too-trusting young lady, or c) both.

I'm glad Kacie is home with her family.

[Nancy]

EDH Jen, please don't regret sharing the situation on this board. The cynical and suspicious nature of a few people on this board isn't the way that most of this community feels about Kacie or her family. I really believe that you putting this on the message board was extremely important in spreading the word of mouth, and may have played a big part in bringing Kacie home.

I can't say I'm surprised at the way this thread has gone considering it went much the same way when someone posted to warn people about one of the men who has been lurking around kids in the last couple of weeks.

http://www.tomatopag...showtopic=17667

Don't let a few people ruin your trust in our community.

I'm so glad that Kacie is home. I'm continuting to pray for all of them.

Nancy

[lissasmom]

Thank God Kacie has been found, and thank you EDHJen that the family has you as a friend. If I was in this same situation, I would have pulled all the stops to see my beautiful child again. I can't believe some of the people who are posting negative thoughts about this girls disappearance, or her parents lack of supervision. What would you do if you were put in this same position?

This is a very different world that we live in...not the world that I grew up in where I could be gone on my bike all day long, without a cell phone or constant communication with my family. This is a world of My Space, Facebook, and many other ways for sick people to involve themselves with our children. Gone are the days that a 1st grader walks to school with a buddy (like I did). Wake up, we have a man hanging out at Border's children's time, an SUV trying to pickup kids at Raleys and Safeway, and countless other people in our backyard that we don't even know about.

Be thankful this beautiful girl is alive! This family is counting its blessings. They are very lucky. Thank you EDHJen for trying to help this family. I would hope that if I was in the same position, someone like you would come to my aid.

[Bill Z]

I'm glad to hear the Kacie is safe at home. Rather than speculate on a whole myriad of possibilities, it will be very interesting to hear what, if any, charges are filed and to whom those charges are against.

I found the mother's statement on TV last night that she didn't hold the lying friend as accountable for anything. To me that tells a lot that there is so much we don't know about what he said, but that whatever it was, the mom seemed OK with his change in the story.

[Lisa in Folsom]

It is important when these things happen, that the whole story come out, and soon. I was impressed with the willingness of the community to jump to help a family, but think that the complete story may help to mitigate some of the paranoia that results from these incidents. There may truly have been some sort of predator, or she may have run away or any number of things, but the community should know what is truly in our backyards. Statistics continue to show that we are safer now than when we were kids, crime is lower, criminal investigations more successful with better technology and, as evidenced in this case, we have an outstanding communication system available via the internet.

Please let us not raise a generation of terrified children who can't step outside the house, teenagers who can't walk to the store and adults who live in fear.

[Nancy]

So... If a 10yo child voluntarily gets into a stranger's car because the guy tells him he's going to give him a free video game deserves whatever he gets? And the parents should just shut up about it and wait patiently for the child to magically appear on their doorstep?

Nice.

[ChipShot]

If a 10yo child voluntarily gets into a stranger's car because the guy tells him he's going to give him a free video game

This is precisely why this '10 year old' should not have been out at night with a guy "friend" who is chronologically 7-8? years older than her and in some parking lot. Was this prudent?? Where is the common sense in our society?? Why is this even a debate?? Amazing. Parents...care to enlighten me on that one?? I'll listen.

[chris v]

This is precisely why this '10 year old' should not have been out at night with a guy "friend" who is chronologically 7-8? years older than her and in some parking lot. Was this prudent?? Where is the common sense in our society?? Why is this even a debate?? Amazing. Parents...care to enlighten me on that one?? I'll listen.

No, you're right.