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[mylo]

BS!!!!! even if it were, theyre were a lot of people who dont! alos, its probably not any worse than when the parents were in high school. dont lie to your kids! we all know there was a lot more drugs and sex and AIDS in your generation.

Drugs and sex, sure, but the AIDS thing is relatively new.

[shallowlarynx]

Funny thing here is......we've transported kids from FHS that were on either GHB, Vicodin, Darvocet, etc. And they've been caught selling said products as well. Where did they get it? Most from their parent's medicine cabinet. And we've had kids in the Every 15 min program too. They come to the program, write a sad letter to their parents, and then graduation night they go out and get tanked. How do I know....I've asked them about it afterwards and they all have the same blanket answer. I ask if it affected them.....they say..."YEAH...RIGHT". Kids. Immortal at that age.

And alcohol/sex? Yeah, they're getting started with that in middle school. There are stories, either proven or unproven that have gone on to say that there are oral sex circles behind the middle school on some days. Their rational is oral sex isn't sex at all, so why not be cool and do it? The guys certainly won't turn it down, and the girls do it just to fit in.

You would be surprised to hear what your children have to say when you aren't around. They are much more unforgiving about their parents than you might think. And another thing......do high school kids really need to be out late at night on weekends??? There is NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING good a high school kid can get into after 10 or 11 pm. NOTHING. Quit being a co-dependent to them and start acting like parents. It's nice to call yourself your child's "best friend", but they have a lot of those in school. They only have one or two sets of parents. Be them!!!!!

[SacKen]

Wow... I've seen dead threads rise again, but this one is two years old! This has got to be some thread resurrection record...

[Orangetj]

its probably not any worse than when the parents were in high school. dont lie to your kids! we all know there was a lot more drugs and sex and AIDS in your generation.

I don't know about that....particularly the sex part. When I was in high school, a lot more people talked about having sex than were actually doing it. Nobody, and I mean nobody was having sex (let alone oral sex) in Junior High when I was a kid. Go back to my parent's generation and I think you'd see that almost nobody was having sex in their high school years and such a thing would be unheard of at the middle school level.

[LordOfWar]

[quote name='mylo' date='Jun 22 2006, 10:32 AM' post='117775']
Drugs and sex, sure, but the AIDS thing is relatively new.
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relatively new! how do you think the cave men had babies? the stork? drugs and sex and aids were there but you didnt care the consequences, im not going to do them but you shouldnt have done them either. example: had a great time getting a hooker, she must have 200,000 std's! son dont try this at home, it is bad. but what a great time i had. you get the point? did you just find out std's are bad?

[OceanGirl]

Uh.....I think he was speaking of AIDS being new......I don't believe that was around during the cave man days......

[Solartide]

Well I just saw this, and frankly, I have not seen rampant sin as Junior had mentioned. Sure, now and then there are those parties, but there are a large group of us who don't do such things. (Too busy playing D&D)

[LordOfWar]

i thought that this was a page for TEEN forums. also, why are you posting this in teen?

[mylo]

i thought that this was a page for TEEN forums. also, why are you posting this in teen?

What?

[forumreader]

The Teen Forum was created to primarily discuss issues that concern teens. Most posters in this forum are indeed teens, however, all members are welcome to post. Likewise, we welcome teens members to post in the other MyFolsom fora.

[FolsomJunior00]

I am glad to see my topic i posted 2 years ago is still being discussed....

[UnionBlondie16]

I don't think teens of today are angels but hey this figure is outrageous!!!!!!!!!!! Give me a break.

With this figure of 70 - 80 %, believe me, Folsom High would already made local headlight news.

You're right. 70-80% is way too high. But Junior is right, it is a very big problem and it's only getting bigger. I have been to a couple of parties and I must say, I was disappointed with what I saw. Kids don't know what they're doing to their lives when they do all the messed up crap that they're doing. ((drugs, alcohol, etc.))

I also find that most of the kids that go to these parties, their parents know exactly where their child is going and what they'll be doing. I don't know if you can totally blame it on a irresponisble kid or if you have to place some of it on the parent. I've been raised to not do that stuff, therefore, I don't. I don't go to the parties, I don't drink, and I've NEVER done drugs.

This is where I thank my parents. They have been a little protective in my upbringing, but not too much. I've been given more freedom than even I feel I deserve. ((I totalled my first car, a 2002 Pontiac Sunfire, and I got a 2001 Camero.)) The only thing that they ask is that I send them a text message to tell them where I'm going and to be home by curfew. And I manage to stay out of too much trouble.

So, I just think that parents just need to stay aware of where their children are. No need for drug dogs or routine breath checks. Just make them earn your trust. =)

[OctoberLily]

Both of my sons just graduated from FHS recently within the last couple of years. The past 4 years while they were at FHS has been the most difficult years of our family life. The worrying and wondering and hoping that my boys are safe and alive the next day was constant. It still is.

Folsom Junior is right about the enormous problem teenagers in Folsom have with regards to Alcohol, Drugs and Sex. The influence abounds all around and it gets heavy during sophomore years. To the parents out there, don't fool yourself into believing that it doesn't exist or it is just a slight problem. It is a BIG problem!

It doesn't matter if you raise your kids in a good family with strict family values and morals, it was still extremely difficult for my boys to get away from the influence and just say NO. I've seen good friends of my sons (good kids) go downhill fast and quick. I've seen friendships tank because of the influences. I've seen kids stoned out of their minds at Mama Nardi's (before the new ownership) and it was lunch time. One kid that I know well was so stoned that he didn't recognize who I was and could not comprehend what I was saying. It's bad when they can't even get through to lunch time without getting stoned.

Even the supposedly good kids are into these things. Kids you see in the paper all the time being praised for their athleticism are into some of this stuff. All you have to do is go on myspace and you will see what your kids are truly up to and what their friends are up to. It doesn't seem to be a secret anymore to some of these kids. Their extracurricular activities are blatantly posted on myspace for all (even the police, resource officers and parents) to see.

It's sad. Parents, if you care about your children, be aware of the changes in your children. Talk to them, listen to them and work with them to get through this. It's not easy but it's worth it.

[mmgood]

Both of my sons just graduated from FHS recently within the last couple of years. The past 4 years while they were at FHS has been the most difficult years of our family life. The worrying and wondering and hoping that my boys are safe and alive the next day was constant. It still is.

Folsom Junior is right about the enormous problem teenagers in Folsom have with regards to Alcohol, Drugs and Sex. The influence abounds all around and it gets heavy during sophomore years. To the parents out there, don't fool yourself into believing that it doesn't exist or it is just a slight problem. It is a BIG problem!

It doesn't matter if you raise your kids in a good family with strict family values and morals, it was still extremely difficult for my boys to get away from the influence and just say NO. I've seen good friends of my sons (good kids) go downhill fast and quick. I've seen friendships tank because of the influences. I've seen kids stoned out of their minds at Mama Nardi's (before the new ownership) and it was lunch time. One kid that I know well was so stoned that he didn't recognize who I was and could not comprehend what I was saying. It's bad when they can't even get through to lunch time without getting stoned.

Even the supposedly good kids are into these things. Kids you see in the paper all the time being praised for their athleticism are into some of this stuff. All you have to do is go on myspace and you will see what your kids are truly up to and what their friends are up to. It doesn't seem to be a secret anymore to some of these kids. Their extracurricular activities are blatantly posted on myspace for all (even the police, resource officers and parents) to see.

It's sad. Parents, if you care about your children, be aware of the changes in your children. Talk to them, listen to them and work with them to get through this. It's not easy but it's worth it.

I dont have any children but have worked with youth for the past 5 years and have made observations about their behaviors. It is true-as a parent of a teen, you cant be their best friend and be the "yes" man/woman in their lives. They dont have to hate you but they need to respect you. Most teens want structure and later in life they will understand.
While kids that are involved in sports and other things do not necessarily stay off drugs and alcohol, being a good role model is the best way to show them that doing those things is not appropriate. I have never touched drugs, or smoked in my life and my parents rarely if ever drank alcohol around us. I didnt try alcohol until I got to college and soon grew tired of the party scene. Parents shouldnt be afraid to be blunt with their children about the harmful effects of all drugs/alcohol/tobacco. Get them involved in things to boost their self esteem so they can say NO with force and confidence. Trust them and they will not want to let you down. That was my biggest thing growing up-I did not want to disappoint my parents by breaking the law or even coming home late at night. More respect on both ends!

[mylo]

Even the supposedly good kids are into these things. Kids you see in the paper all the time being praised for their athleticism are into some of this stuff. All you have to do is go on myspace and you will see what your kids are truly up to and what their friends are up to. It doesn't seem to be a secret anymore to some of these kids. Their extracurricular activities are blatantly posted on myspace for all (even the police, resource officers and parents) to see.

Based on the above paragraph I decided to do some research. I typed into google: "site:myspace.com folsom high weed"

195 pages found, obviously not all directly relating to Folsom, CA students, but geez.. these kids are pretty stupid posting about their illegal activities in a public and recognizable forum. (Apologies in advance if you're one of the few I highlight below)

http://profile.myspa...iendid=11064897 Here's a 'good kid' who posts "i also love to help out cff and march of dimes"
http://profile.myspa...riendid=5909545
http://profile.myspa...riendid=8377279

.. it just keeps going

God I love MySpace