Labor And Pre-labor
#31
Posted 25 July 2005 - 05:00 AM
#32 (Gaelic925)
Posted 25 July 2005 - 06:08 AM
#33
Posted 25 July 2005 - 06:57 AM
Same here, only my son was delivered 23 hours after my water broke.
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#34
Posted 25 July 2005 - 07:49 AM
Why does the class try to promote the total intimate involvement of the husband/partner and try to make an expert out of these people overnight, in the labor/delivery of the child? Which lead to frictions/arguments between the pregnant wife and the husband. I made me panic because of the expectation I perceived from my wife.
#35
Posted 25 July 2005 - 08:17 AM
Why does the class try to promote the total intimate involvement of the husband/partner and try to make an expert out of these people overnight, in the labor/delivery of the child? Which lead to frictions/arguments between the pregnant wife and the husband. I made me panic because of the expectation I perceived from my wife.
What are your wife's expectations?
Parents don't become experts in this overnight or at all, but knowing what to expect helps things go smoother. Your medical team will be there to support you, give advice as to what might help, remind you what you can do, etc. Even if you feel like an expert going in, the experience is nervewracking and you could easily forget what to do. What your wife now thinks might comfort her could be the very thing that drives her crazy when she's in labor. Flexibility is the key. Go with the flow. Don't panic. Count on your medical team.
Be empathetic to your wife; she's understandably getting more nervous, more anxious. Reassure her that everything will be just fine, which it will. You will do just fine, too.
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#36
Posted 25 July 2005 - 08:30 AM
I agree that she's more nervous than I am, but then two nervous people is worse than one.
One example - about a month ago, she went through a braxton Hicks and I forgot what I learned in the class so I did not know. She told me - my gosh you don't know that!
Parents don't become experts in this overnight or at all, but knowing what to expect helps things go smoother. Your medical team will be there to support you, give advice as to what might help, remind you what you can do, etc. Even if you feel like an expert going in, the experience is nervewracking and you could easily forget what to do. What your wife now thinks might comfort her could be the very thing that drives her crazy when she's in labor. Flexibility is the key. Go with the flow. Don't panic. Count on your medical team.
Be empathetic to your wife; she's understandably getting more nervous, more anxious. Reassure her that everything will be just fine, which it will. You will do just fine, too.
#37
Posted 25 July 2005 - 08:34 AM
#38
Posted 25 July 2005 - 02:08 PM
Why does the class try to promote the total intimate involvement of the husband/partner and try to make an expert out of these people overnight, in the labor/delivery of the child? Which lead to frictions/arguments between the pregnant wife and the husband. I made me panic because of the expectation I perceived from my wife.
I don't know about your wife...but when we were "in the thick of it" I wanted NOTHING to do with my husband
I was in so much pain and it felt like every time he would touch me it made the pain worse
Us prego women are STRANGE!!!!
Just don't take it personally
#39
Posted 25 July 2005 - 02:23 PM
My husband brought all of the notes from class to the delivery room but basically he just kept telling me to breath. The nurses take over. Is she going for the drugs? If not, the pain may be so unbearable that you telling her to breath is not going to do much good. I think it justs gives husbands something to do.
#40
Posted 25 July 2005 - 03:45 PM
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#41
Posted 25 July 2005 - 03:54 PM
#42
Posted 25 July 2005 - 04:54 PM
I was in so much pain and it felt like every time he would touch me it made the pain worse
Us prego women are STRANGE!!!!
Just don't take it personally
They had me play cather w/ my boy a couple of weeks ago. It went something like this:
Doc: Place your hands here.
Me: I don't think so.
Doc: Place your hands here.
Me (after cathing my boy): You want me to do what?
Doc: Put your hands here to cathc him.
Me: Wow! A boy. Now would someone take him? This is some gross stuff.
Well, at least I was thinking that last part, although it was very exciting
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#43
Posted 26 July 2005 - 07:01 AM
#44
Posted 26 July 2005 - 08:10 AM
How'd you guess?
Cyber, when they go to hand you the baby just go grab the baby with both hands by the knees. All your baby responsibilities will be promptly taken away...
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#45
Posted 28 July 2005 - 09:49 AM
i used the same tactic with my cooking responsibility at home. it worked.
she asked - when will you cook for me?
my replies - i don't know how to cook.
(use it often!!!!!)
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