I have already islotaed the duplicates. The problem is that the delete key on the keyboard and the right click key (not showing delete) is not helping.
I wonder if there is a master folder somewhere on the mydocuments or some other folder on the computer where I can go withiout openning up Itunes and delete these 100+ duplicates. this way, when I sync, then it can remove and clean it up.
I will take up everyone's suggestions by moving all my songs into my own playlist and the mrs to her own folders. I still have to configure how I can keep her folder/playlist off mine and vise versa (I think there is a way to configure this).
I'd help you further but then I'd have to charge an iTunes HOA fee
seriously tho - the only solution is to move all your music files to a single location - its a bit of manual work but it can help consolidate the duplicates and keep the files managed and organized better.
the way to find out where a file is located is when in itunes right click on the song you want to delete, choose get info, then check out the "where" field and that will tell you exactly where the file is located on your hard drive.