This is just too sad for words. I just wish this child could have known that what seems like the end of the world at such a young age really isn't. If he could have just hung on. Things do get better. My heart goes out to his family.
This is such a wise statement, Ducky. A few weeks ago when the girl was hit by light rail in R.C., apparently a rumor (now known to be false) circulated at FHS that it was a suicide. I talked with my daughter about how, especially when you are young, you always have the ability to change your life to get out of a difficult situation--you can go to a new school, be homeschooled, move to a new place, join new activities, hang out with a new group of friends etc. etc. I told her that as parents, we would always be there to help facilitate such changes if the need arose. There is never a justification for a "permanent solution to a temporary problem..." She seemed to embrace this, and I hope it's a message all young people get.
As an aside, one of the things that shocks me about this is that he was so young -- 12 years old. Honestly, while not being naïve I'm surprised that a 12 year old would have the means, knowledge, and will to commit such an act.
SunnyCA, I'm certainly not trying to stir up trouble between the schools. I'm simply reporting what my kids, both in separate grades at FHS, reported to me, supposedly hearing it from their peers, some of whom attended FMS. I realize that kids are highly subjective and that rumors and reputations tend to take on a life of their own among high schoolers... Whether there is any truth to it, and whether staff at SMS and FMS could learn anything from each other, I don't know. Of course you are correct that bullying happens everywhere, and parents and schools must be constantly vigilant to stop it.