Sad, But True
#31
Posted 31 March 2004 - 01:01 PM
Guess what else? Some teenagers DON'T do drugs, DON'T have sex and will become successful, upstanding members of their community.
What can you do to help determine which way YOUR teenager goes? Stay close to them. Ask questions. Be involved. Watch for signs. Care about them. Talk to them. Reward them when they make good decisions. Punish them when they don't. (I'm not talking about beatings here...).
All we can do as parents is try and set their values and morals straight. Be sure they know what is right and what is wrong and WHY those things are the way they are.
Eventually (and for HS students, it's very soon), they have to leave the house and fend for themselves. This means being responsible for their own actions.
If they've grown to learn that they can drink or do drugs and get away with it without consequence, that understanding will be carried with them into their adult life.
I happen to feel that this kid is posting just to raise everyone's hackles. For those parents like me who's eyes/ears are wide open, the post comes as NO surprise.
Anyone under 60 lived through the same dazed & confused era where all of these things were prevelant, if not more so. The challenges of parents then is the same as us today WITH ONE EXCEPTION: We've been there/done that (and that...and this...and that). We can relate through our OWN experience and perhaps that of people we know, why these things are wrong and what they can do to you and your chances for a happy adulthood.
Kids who drink smell/act like adults who drink. Kids who smoke smell/act like adults that smoke.
When your kid comes home on a Friday night, be there and take a good whiff.
#32
Posted 31 March 2004 - 01:14 PM
Do you have an understanding or opinion as to why the problem is worse at Folsom High than in neighborhing towns??
#33
Posted 31 March 2004 - 01:39 PM
QUOTE (bordercolliefan @ Mar 31 2004, 01:14 PM) |
SecondWind, Do you have an understanding or opinion as to why the problem is worse at Folsom High than in neighborhing towns?? |
I can't speak for secondwind, but personally I doubt that it is. I have no proof to back that up, though. When I went off to college, kids from all over the place told the same stories.
#34
Posted 31 March 2004 - 01:47 PM
Also, you cannot 'find out where he lives' because he posts on a message board. The administrators may be able to, but like he said, what would be the point? Are you trying to threaten him? Get off your high horse and wake up to the America of today.
#35
Posted 31 March 2004 - 02:08 PM
QUOTE (bordercolliefan @ Mar 31 2004, 01:14 PM) |
SecondWind, Do you have an understanding or opinion as to why the problem is worse at Folsom High than in neighborhing towns?? |
I sure do -
Affluent Parents and wannna bees- have less time and more money---
for the Drugs and Drinking - it is MONEY_ available to the kids and in their pockets- - Simple fact in today's age of affluent parents that have little ( or not enough) time to supervise the kids so they put dollars in their pockets to keep them entertained.. and often this is where it all starts-
And Drinkng and Drugs- do lead to more Sexual activity-- not that they need an excuse-,,,, Again - with less parental education and supervision it is all to be expected in today's society- - but should not be tolerated and should have programs in place ( as some schools do) to attempt to abate the situations....
Cheers
Secondwind
#36
Posted 31 March 2004 - 04:45 PM
However, there is a policy in the Folsom Cordova Unified School District which makes it more difficult for parents to be involved. This policy, which allows students as young as 12 years of age to be released from school for confidential medical appoints without a parent's knowledge or consent, makes the school party to deception of parents. It threatens a parent's ability to guide and help their children. (For more background information on this policy, please refer to the thread entitled "Children Can Leave School Without....")
There is a SCHOOL BOARD MEETING TOMORROW, THURS., 4/1 at 6:00 pm at FOLSOM HIGH SCHOOL. Please come and express your concerns to the board about this dangerous policy. If you are concerned but not able to attend, please email the Board Trustees. (Email addresses can be found in the thread referenced in the previous paragraph.)
The solution to the problems of alcohol, drugs, sex in our schools is bigger than family-friendly policy-making. But without question, this policy allowing the release of students from campus behind a parent's back MUST CHANGE. It is a bare minimum.
#37
Posted 31 March 2004 - 05:00 PM
Grade 9:.......................In their lives..............Within 30 days.....Statewide
Alcohol use........................43%...........................24%...................48%
Inhalants..........................10%..............................4%.....................9%
Marijuana..........................25%...........................13%...................24%
Methamphetamine..............6%.............................1%.....................3%
Abstinence........................52%.....................................................38%
Offered Illegal Drugs
.....On School Campus
.....In the Past Year..........31%
Grade 11:.....................In their lives...........Within 30 days.....Statewide
Alcohol use........................65%.............................37%................65%
Inhalants...........................10%..............................2%................13%
Marijuana..........................40%.............................17%................44%
Methamphetamine..............9%...............................2%.................9%
Abstinence........................31%....................................................32%
Offered Illegal Drugs
.....On School Campus
.....In the Past Year..........33%
There will be a forum (as stevethedad noted) on this topic at Mills Middle School on Tuesday, May 25, from 7-9 p.m.
There will be a forum on this topic at Folsom High Theater on Wednesday, May 26, from 7-9 p.m.
#38
Posted 31 March 2004 - 05:11 PM
I came from a culture that take a whole village to raise a child.
I don't deny the facts that kids do drugs and had sex. Some DO and some DON'T.
I don't bury my head in the sand. I came to this country when I was 14 year old and yes I smoked weeds (hmmmmm gooood). Was too ugly to get high school dates so the "other truth" is out the window. , so I smoked more weeds........
I have an older sister who got caught in the drug-sex-and-rock n roll world of the mid 70's, who never was able to get out of it. She was a straight A's student, graduated high school and was on drug ALL her life, got pregnant. You know - the whole nine yard. She's still in jail somewhere in San Diego, 47 year old homeless. My parents still are heart broken about this whole thing.
Bottomline - give your kids love, care, be involved with them 110%, and hope for the best. If something do go wrong with them, help them. DONE. Now let's go have a beer.
#39
Posted 31 March 2004 - 05:12 PM
#40
Posted 31 March 2004 - 05:59 PM
And no, Dave, im not a troll. If i were a troll i would be saying how bad folsom sucks and all that
#41
Posted 31 March 2004 - 08:40 PM
Some of the numbers are alarmingly high. My daughter says she hears lots of classmates bragging that they lied on the self-reporting survey the school gives.
I'll take your advice and keep a close eye on my own kids.
#42
Posted 31 March 2004 - 09:13 PM
Your first post just sounded like you were messing with people, combined with your other topic's post.
Your assertion isn't that surprising to some of us, other than your numbers are high according to surveys.
I went to high school in the post-hippie swinging 70's before Herpes and AIDS and drug dogs and locker searches got in kid's way. Parents were really clueless then. Now, most parents know exactly of what you speak.
#43
Posted 31 March 2004 - 09:43 PM
As for this topic, its in all seriousness. Folsom High School, for such a clean image (well, before the "alleged"rape, and i said alleged because i dont think it happned) the school is mighty dirty
#44
Posted 31 March 2004 - 11:16 PM
#45
Posted 01 April 2004 - 05:30 AM
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