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[cybertrano]

Baby will supposedly pop next week . So far there is no signs of anything drastic, just more braxton hicks contractions. She's getting more of these as the days go by.

[Deb aka Resume Lady]

If your water breaks the baby needs to be out within 24 hours or you risk infection. This happened with my son and my contractions never got to the 511 stage. They had to induce me and he was finally delivered 21 hours after my water broke.

Same here, only my son was delivered 23 hours after my water broke.

[cybertrano]

The next issue which irritate me a little is the Childbirth Class which we took through our care provider - Kaiser.

Why does the class try to promote the total intimate involvement of the husband/partner and try to make an expert out of these people overnight, in the labor/delivery of the child? Which lead to frictions/arguments between the pregnant wife and the husband. I made me panic because of the expectation I perceived from my wife.

[Deb aka Resume Lady]

The next issue which irritate me a little is the Childbirth Class which we took through our care provider - Kaiser.

Why does the class try to promote the total intimate involvement of the husband/partner and try to make an expert out of these people overnight, in the labor/delivery of the child?  Which lead to frictions/arguments between the pregnant wife and the husband.  I made me panic because of the expectation I perceived from my wife.

What are your wife's expectations?

Parents don't become experts in this overnight or at all, but knowing what to expect helps things go smoother. Your medical team will be there to support you, give advice as to what might help, remind you what you can do, etc. Even if you feel like an expert going in, the experience is nervewracking and you could easily forget what to do. What your wife now thinks might comfort her could be the very thing that drives her crazy when she's in labor. Flexibility is the key. Go with the flow. Don't panic. Count on your medical team.

Be empathetic to your wife; she's understandably getting more nervous, more anxious. Reassure her that everything will be just fine, which it will. You will do just fine, too.

[cybertrano]

Thanx.

I agree that she's more nervous than I am, but then two nervous people is worse than one.

One example - about a month ago, she went through a braxton Hicks and I forgot what I learned in the class so I did not know. She told me - my gosh you don't know that!

What are your wife's expectations?

Parents don't become experts in this overnight or at all, but knowing what to expect helps things go smoother. Your medical team will be there to support you, give advice as to what might help, remind you what you can do, etc. Even if you feel like an expert going in, the experience is nervewracking and you could easily forget what to do. What your wife now thinks might comfort her could be the very thing that drives her crazy when she's in labor. Flexibility is the key. Go with the flow. Don't panic. Count on your medical team.

Be empathetic to your wife; she's understandably getting more nervous, more anxious. Reassure her that everything will be just fine, which it will. You will do just fine, too.

[cybertrano]

And anyway, we came up with a solution - mother-in-law will come with us on the day of delivery. She had lots of experience with 5 kiddies of her own.

[Mommy2Sydni]

The next issue which irritate me a little is the Childbirth Class which we took through our care provider - Kaiser.

Why does the class try to promote the total intimate involvement of the husband/partner and try to make an expert out of these people overnight, in the labor/delivery of the child?  Which lead to frictions/arguments between the pregnant wife and the husband.  I made me panic because of the expectation I perceived from my wife.

I don't know about your wife...but when we were "in the thick of it" I wanted NOTHING to do with my husband
I was in so much pain and it felt like every time he would touch me it made the pain worse
Us prego women are STRANGE!!!!
Just don't take it personally

[Gina99]

I think your wife's expectation of you being involved may be a bit much. I had Braxton-Hicks for weeks before I told my husband I was having them

My husband brought all of the notes from class to the delivery room but basically he just kept telling me to breath. The nurses take over. Is she going for the drugs? If not, the pain may be so unbearable that you telling her to breath is not going to do much good. I think it justs gives husbands something to do.

[Cloud9]

That's right, just pull the curtain to the side and watch the game... She'll be so drugged up she won't remember....

[Gina99]

Ha! Is that your plan? Wait-I can see you with a laptop, posting in a heated discussion on the Myforum website in the delivery room

[tgianco]

I don't know about your wife...but when we were "in the thick of it" I wanted NOTHING to do with my husband
I was in so much pain and it felt like every time he would touch me it made the pain worse
Us prego women are STRANGE!!!!
Just don't take it personally

They had me play cather w/ my boy a couple of weeks ago. It went something like this:

Doc: Place your hands here.

Me: I don't think so.

Doc: Place your hands here.

Me (after cathing my boy): You want me to do what?

Doc: Put your hands here to cathc him.

Me: Wow! A boy. Now would someone take him? This is some gross stuff.

Well, at least I was thinking that last part, although it was very exciting

[cybertrano]

At this stage of 38 weeks, the baby is so big and mature, I am surprise that babies don't do more damages such as pulling on the string or something like that.

[Cloud9]

Ha! Is that your plan? Wait-I can see you with a laptop, posting in a heated discussion on the Myforum website in the delivery room

How'd you guess?

Cyber, when they go to hand you the baby just go grab the baby with both hands by the knees. All your baby responsibilities will be promptly taken away...

[cybertrano]

thanx for the great idea cloud.

i used the same tactic with my cooking responsibility at home. it worked.

she asked - when will you cook for me?

my replies - i don't know how to cook.

(use it often!!!!!)